From perusing the net, it seems that the error message "Software caused connection abort: socket write error" just means something went wrong. It shows up in other programs than edtFTnet and other protocols besides FTP.  The various explanations as to its cause I don't think fit my case.  I wrote little test program just to get familiar with edtFTPnet.  I can change directories, find out what directory I am in, but as soon as I try to get a directory listing it fails.
-------------------------PROGRAM--------------------------
/*
 * [BulkFTP.java]
 *
 * Summary: Upload a large set of files with FTP avoiding those already uploaded.
 *
 * Copyright: (c) 2011 Roedy Green, Canadian Mind Products, 
http://mindprod.com
 *
 * Licence: This software may be copied and used freely for any purpose but military.
 *          
http://mindprod.com/contact/nonmil.html
 *
 * Requires: JDK 1.6+
 *
 * Created with: JetBrains IntelliJ IDEA IDE 
http://www.jetbrains.com/idea/
 *
 * Version History:
 *  1.0 2011-12-03 initial release
 */
package com.mindprod.bulkftp;
import com.enterprisedt.net.ftp.FTPConnectMode;
import com.enterprisedt.net.ftp.FTPException;
import com.enterprisedt.net.ftp.FileTransferClient;
import java.io.IOException;
import static java.lang.System.err;
import static java.lang.System.out;
/**
 * Upload a large set of files with FTP avoiding those already uploaded.
 *
 * @author Roedy Green, Canadian Mind Products
 * @version 1.0 2011-12-03 initial releas
 * @since 2011-12-03
 */
public class BulkFTP
    {
    public static void main( String[] args )
        {
        final String host = "mindprod.com";   //  65.110.21.43
        final String username = "roedy.mindprod.com";
        final String password = System.getenv( "FTP_PASSWORD" );
        final String rootDir = "/com/mindprod/www";
        out.println( "logging into " + host + " with username " + username + " and password " + password );
        final FileTransferClient ftp = new FileTransferClient();
        try
            {
            ftp.getAdvancedFTPSettings().setConnectMode( FTPConnectMode.ACTIVE );
            ftp.getAdvancedFTPSettings().setStrictReturnCodes( false );
            ftp.setRemoteHost( host );
            ftp.setUserName( username );
            ftp.setPassword( password );
            ftp.connect();
            final String initialDir = ftp.getRemoteDirectory();
            out.println( "initial cwd " + initialDir );
            ftp.changeDirectory( rootDir );
            final String absRootdir = ftp.getRemoteDirectory();
            out.println( "abs root dir " + absRootdir );
            final String[] descriptions = ftp.directoryNameList(); // <-- dies here
            for ( String s : descriptions )
                {
                out.println( s );
                }
            ftp.disconnect();
            }
        catch ( FTPException e )
            {
            err.println( e.getMessage() + " Unable to proceed" );
            e.printStackTrace( err );
            System.exit( 1 );
            }
        catch ( IOException e )
            {
            err.println( e.getMessage() + " Unable to proceed" );
            e.printStackTrace( err );
            System.exit( 1 );
            }
        }
    }
-------------------------OUTPUT-----------------------------
Connected to the target VM, address: '127.0.0.1:53145', transport: 'socket'
logging into mindprod.com with username roedy.mindprod.com and password xxxx
initial cwd /com/mindprod/usr/roedy
abs root dir /com/mindprod/www
Software caused connection abort: socket write error Unable to proceed
Disconnected from the target VM, address: '127.0.0.1:53145', transport: 'socket'
com.enterprisedt.net.ftp.ControlChannelIOException: Software caused connection abort: socket write error
	at com.enterprisedt.net.ftp.FTPControlSocket.writeCommand(FTPControlSocket.java:1020)
	at com.enterprisedt.net.ftp.FTPControlSocket.sendCommand(FTPControlSocket.java:997)
	at com.enterprisedt.net.ftp.FTPControlSocket.setDataPort(FTPControlSocket.java:813)
	at com.enterprisedt.net.ftp.FTPControlSocket.sendPORTCommand(FTPControlSocket.java:669)
	at com.enterprisedt.net.ftp.FTPControlSocket.createDataSocketActive(FTPControlSocket.java:616)
	at com.enterprisedt.net.ftp.FTPControlSocket.createDataSocket(FTPControlSocket.java:583)
	at com.enterprisedt.net.ftp.FTPClient.setupDataSocket(FTPClient.java:2648)
	at com.enterprisedt.net.ftp.FTPClient.dir(FTPClient.java:3664)
	at com.enterprisedt.net.ftp.FTPClient.dir(FTPClient.java:3756)
	at com.enterprisedt.net.ftp.FileTransferClient.directoryNameList(FileTransferClient.java:622)
	at com.enterprisedt.net.ftp.FileTransferClient.directoryNameList(FileTransferClient.java:606)
	at com.mindprod.bulkftp.BulkFTP.main(BulkFTP.java:62)